Mom Shares How Easy It Is To Teach Kids Consent And People Applaud Her


Would you like to read this article? I’ll assume that you’re nodding along and that I have your consent because you opened it up. Always a touchy subject that gets both sides of the debate fired up, consent is nonetheless a very important concept. To put it bluntly, consent is what helps people maintain their freedom of will and help them stay, well, human. With their dignity and autonomy intact.


And one mother from Chicago is taking the concept to a whole other level with her toddler and baby. She’s teaching her children about consent and body autonomy in a very radical way: by introducing the concepts in every task that they do together every single day. From asking whether they want their hair brushed to gently nudging them to say whether he wants to brush his teeth now or in five minutes.


You’ll find 32-year-old teacher Alissa’s TikTok videos where she introduces her unique and emotionally intelligent style of parenting to the internet below.


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Mom Alissa from Chicago teaches her kids consent through small everyday tasks. You can watch the full video here



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Consent isn’t just about protecting one’s autonomy, however. It’s also an important part of justifying someone’s actions in various fields. “In standard cases, a person’s consent to another person’s acts removes moral or legal objections to or liability for the performance of those acts,” the Routledge Encyclopedia of Philosophy explains.


“Thus, in medical practice, the informed consent of a patient to a procedure can justify the physician’s actions. In law, the maxim ‘volenti non fit injuria’ (the willing person is not wronged) governs a wide range of acts and transactions, from the economic to the sexual. And in politics, it is often supposed that it is ‘the consent of the governed’ that justifies or makes permissible both governmental policies and the use of official coercion to compel obedience to law.”


The Routledge Encyclopedia of Philosophy explains the obvious fact that consent can be given in a variety of ways, ranging from very direct to less direct forms. However, its “binding force” always has to fulfill certain conditions, including “knowledge, intention, competence, voluntariness, and acceptability of content.”


In another video, the single mom shows how she explains what she’s doing aloud while changing diapers, a task that small children can’t consent to



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Of course, not all tasks can have a child’s consent because they simply don’t understand its importance. One of these is changing diapers. However, Alissa walks her younger child through the entire process to make him feel involved and to make sure that he understands what’s going on.


Alissa told PopSugar that teaching kids consent teaches them that their body is theirs and that other people’s bodies belong to those people.


“It helps to protect children from future abuse and teaches them to respect the boundaries of others. Even parents can make children feel uncomfortable when the touch is not wanted. My videos are geared toward parents and future parents to help them understand the importance of not only respecting their children’s boundaries but doing so in a way that parenting can still be done as well.”


Here’s how some people on social media have been reacting to the Chicago-based mom’s TikTok videos








What do you think of Alissa’s parenting style, dear Pandas? Is it the right way to move forward or does it change parent-child relationships too much? Is there anything that you’d improve? How important do you think it is to teach kids body autonomy and consent from an early age? Share your thoughts (and experiences with parenting!) in the comment section below.


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