It’s completely understandable if you feel overwhelmed about organizing your wedding. It’s completely natural to be at least a tad stressed about what’s supposed to be one of the happiest days of your life. There’s a lot of pressure! Some brides deal with this stress fantastically. They embrace the fact that some things might go wrong and they choose to see these unexpected events as surprises.
Unfortunately, others morph into bridezillas, try to control every tiny little detail, and lash out at their friends. Our team at Bored Panda has collected some of the most intense conversations of brides conflicting with their bridesmaids. Read on to see how not to treat your dear friends and why it’s best to avoid hashing out your issues online.
#1 Bride's Sister Obviously Got Pregnant On Purpose To Ruin The Wedding
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#2 Bridezilla's Close Friend Having Cancer Doesn't Fit Her Wedding "Aesthetic"
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#3 When Did Being A Part Of The Bridal Party Become An Unpaid Job
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Getting married can be a very stressful thing. Not only do you have to craft the ‘perfect’ guest list and find a romantic venue for the ceremony as well as the reception, but you also have to send out tons of invites, think about the food, and consider a ton of decoration details. Oh, and planning your honeymoon! All while fitting into your budget…
If you decide to hire a wedding organizer, it can really help reduce the amount of stress you’re under. In fact, the more tasks you delegate to pros, the more you can focus on enjoying the run-up to your wedding.
#4 Sure, I'm Gonna Cut My Hair That I Grew And Took Care Of For 10 Straight Years, So You Can Feel A Tiny Bit More Special On That One Day
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#5 Lose Weight If You Want To Be My Maid Of Honor
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#6 Imagine Thinking Everyone Has Been Waiting Their Whole Lives For You To Get Married, Therefore They Should Happily Spend Nearly $300 On A Dress To Be A Part Of It
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Generally, if there’s some sort of massive issue between you and a friend/bridesmaid, it’s best to talk to them face-to-face in private. It’s easy to lose a lot of the nuance when you’re primarily communicating online. When you meet up in person, there’s no hiding from their reactions, so you tend to be slightly more diplomatic and caring.
When you’re looking at a screen, it’s sometimes easy to forget that there’s a living, breathing person reading what you wrote on the other side.
#7 Bridesmaid Demands That The Bride Pay £190 For A Pair Of Shoes The Bridesmaid Chose. This Is After The Bride Had Offered Numerous Options Within A Certain Price Range
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#8 So This Bride Thinks That The Solution To Bridesmaid Dresses Not Arriving Is To... Get New Bridesmaids?
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#9 Having Lavender As Decor Is More Important Than A Bridesmaid’s Allergies, Obviously
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On top of that, when you’re criticizing someone in a group chat, you’re amping up the tension and causing (potentially) unnecessary drama. Instead, you could be looking for compromises or de-escalating the entire situation.
It’s important to remember that you and your bridesmaids are a team—or, well, you’re supposed to be one. Some conflict is probably inevitable, but at the end of the day, your friendship should matter more than proving that one of you is wrong.
#10 "Selfish" Bridesmaids Ruin Wedding By Saving Their Money During Record Inflation
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#11 Should Have Had The Lawsuit Served To Her At The Altar
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#12 Bride And Maid Of Honor Tried Ripping Off Bridesmaids
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Many arguments and conflicts happen either because there’s a disconnect between people’s goals and values or when there’s miscommunication. Oftentimes, it’s better to have more communication than a lack of it.
The rule of thumb is to never assume that someone knows what you’re thinking or feeling. Nobody’s a mind-reader (probably; maybe; we’re 99% sure!), so if something’s bugging you or you spot an issue, speak up.
#13 Imagine Thinking That Your Color Scheme Is More Important Than Your "Closest" Friend
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#14 If You Accept Being My Bridesmaid, You Will Have To Pay For Everything
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#15 Bride Wanted A "Perfect" Wedding, So I Left The Bridal Party
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However, it’s not enough to notice flaws in someone else’s wedding, bridal shower, or bachelorette party plans. How you bring up these potential problems is just as important (if not more) than stating the issue itself.
People are often very attached to the plans they make. They might take any criticism of their ideas as an attack on their person. So, it’s usually best to err on the side of diplomacy than to be too blunt.
#16 Bride Asks A Girl To Be A Bridesmaid Only Because She Wants An Even Number. Then Wants To Remove Her
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#17 Someone Potentially Dying At Your Wedding Is A Much Better Idea, Than Simply Not Having Seafood For One Day
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#18 Bride Will Be The Only One Not Wearing Glasses And Isn’t Sure How To "Overcome This Issue"
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Transparency and problem-solving aren’t sins. But many folks feel insulted and get overly defensive if they’re directly criticized. All that being said, there are definitely cases when you need to be more direct.
Not everyone is adept at picking up subtle clues that they should do something differently for the wedding or any other event. Or they might avoid the issue under the guise that they’re clueless. In those cases, be friendly, but be clear about your expectations as well as your worries.
#19 Dark Skin And Yellow Make The Perfect Combination Though
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#20 Bridesmaid Dyes Her Hair Red After Bride Asks Her Not To
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#21 How Dare My 30-Year-Old Bridesmaid Have Some Grey Hair
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Your bridesmaids are probably your family or friends, so they should be able to understand where you’re coming from, no matter the problem. The same goes in reverse.
The bridesmaids should feel like they can speak to the bride about any potential issues openly, without worrying about her transforming into the mythical fire-spitting snarling bridezilla.
#22 Bride Is Upset That Her Bridesmaid Has The Wrong Color Toenail Polish
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#23 Bride Wants All Her Bridesmaids To Cut And Dye Their Hair So They Look Identical
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#24 I Was Part Of A Bridal Party And There Were Too Many Things Expected From Us
The images are from the engagement event in which the bridal party was responsible to fund, supply, set up, and breakdown (clean) the venue. The parents supplied some of it, but you can see the cost breakdowns expected of the bridal party.
Overall, I spent about $2,000 on the various events and travel for this wedding and I never even received a thank you! It was almost no-contact post-wedding, with the exception of one pitiful last-minute invite to their housewarming via text message three days in advance, which I declined and I wasn’t acknowledged nor did I ever hear from them again. Obviously, it was good riddance to such a horrible selfish non-friend, but it was a sad realization that I was just taken advantage of.
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If you find that the bride or your bridesmaids are gossiping about you and your ideas behind your back, it’s really not a good look. You’re all meant to be united in celebrating love and your friend starting a new era. While gossip is never going to go away (it’s a core part of being a human being), we can at least refrain from saying awful things about the people we’re supposed to care deeply about.
#25 Bridesmaid Is Way Too Caught Up In Her Romance. What's Next? "You Can't Celebrate Christmas, Because Boyfriend And I Do!"
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#26 Entitled Bride Wants Bridesmaid To Wear A Wig To The Wedding
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#27 Shaming My Bridesmaid For Shaming My Eating Habits
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Ultimately, if you feel that your bridesmaids objectively do not have your best interests at heart, you may want to talk to them about any resentment or frustration simmering beneath the surface. It may be the case that your expectations for their role in the wedding might simply be too high.
Alternatively, they might have done something that made you reconsider their role, as well as your entire friendship. In case there’s been a falling out, it might be best to talk to them about how you’d like them to skip your wedding. This is better done in person while also leaving the door open a little bit for reconnecting after your Big Day.
#28 I Would Show Up At The Wedding Wearing The Dress
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#29 Bride Is Fuming, Because Her Bridesmaid Dyed Her Hair One Year Before The Wedding
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#30 This Is Such A Horrible Way To Treat A Friend
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What’s the biggest disagreement you’ve ever witnessed between a bride and her bridesmaids, dear Pandas? Have you ever fallen out with either in the run-up to the wedding? What’s the spiciest wedding drama you’ve ever been a part of? If you’re up for sharing, feel free to write a comment at the bottom of this post.
#31 Bride Is Mad That The Maid Of Honor Is Pregnant And Is "Ruining" Her Bachelorette Party
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#32 Bride Wants For The Bridal Party To Pay For Her Solo Spa Weekend Instead Of Having A Bachelorette Party
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#33 Maid Of Honor Informs Us That We Can’t Cut Our Hair, Shape Our Eyebrows, And Implies We Should Lose Weight
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#34 Bride Wouldn't Accommodate Her Heavily Pregnant Bridesmaid — Forced Her To Pull Out Of The Bridal Party
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#35 Maid Of Honor's Speech Gave Me Physical Cringe
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#36 She Wants A Deposit From Her Bridesmaids
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#37 This Is Pretty Heartless Of The Bride
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#38 Since When Has It Become Normal To Have People Go Broke For Your Wedding? They Aren’t The Ones Getting Married, They Are There To Support You
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#39 Bridesmaid Is Thinking Of Wearing A Cream Color Dress To The Wedding
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#40 An Obnoxious "Depression Streak". How Understanding And Compassionate
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#41 Her Attitude Is So Entitled
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#42 Ah Yes, The Good Old "Get Pregnant, So I Won't Need To Be In A Bridal Party" Scheme. Works Every Time
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#43 A Reply To Someone Asking If They Should Ask The Bride Why They’re Not In The Wedding Party
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#44 Speechless
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#45 Can’t Let A Tooth Ruin The Whole Wedding
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#46 Well, Maybe She Got The Tattoo To Go Along With The Theme Of Your Wedding? Didn't Think Of That, Did You, Ms. Zilla?
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#47 Crop Tops Over Family Everyday, Am I Right?
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#48 I Don’t Get This "Everyone Must Look Perfect" Thing About Weddings
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#49 I Really Wonder How People Like This Have Friends And A Relationship. They Are Really Insufferable
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#50 Bride Is Appalled That Her Bridesmaids Were Inconsiderate Enough To Get Pregnant
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#51 Someone Was Clearly Jealous Of All The Attention The Bride Was Getting
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#52 Cancelling My Best Friend's Bachelorette Party After She "Fired" Me As A Bridesmaid
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#53 The Situation Sounds Miserable. I Would Just Cut My Losses
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#54 It Seems That Weddings For Some Women Are Not Celebrations Of The Start Of A Life With Someone They Love, But A Venue To Just Act Ugly
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#55 Can I Just Shame My Own Toxic Maid Of Honor For A Minute
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#56 Bride Makes A List Of Rules For The Bridesmaids Who Have To "Apply" For The Role
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#57 Bride Is Mad That Her Sister, Who Is A Bridesmaid, Is Pregnant And Won’t Wear Specific Shoes At The Wedding
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#58 Anonymous Bride Wants To Know If It’s "Bridezilla" To Pressure Bridesmaids Into Getting Drunk So They Don’t Have "Old Grandma Energy" At Her Bachelorette Party
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#59 Bride Is Insisting Her Bridesmaids Wear Converse Sneakers, Even The Ones Who Physically Can't
HR stands for Hallux Rigidus. It's a condition where you basically can't bend your big toe and have to wear very specific shoes.
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#60 How Dare The Bride's Sister Get A Tattoo Right Before The Wedding
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#61 These Bachelorette Weekends Are Truly Getting Out Of Hand
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#62 The Bride Is More Upset That Her Friend Is Getting Married 10 Months Before Her Than She Is That Her Friend Is Marrying Someone Who Abuses Her
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#63 How Dare A Bridesmaid Have A Surgical Procedure Near Your Wedding Date? The Audacity
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#64 Bridezilla Wants Her Sister's House For Her Wedding
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#65 Asking For A Loved One In The Bridal Party To Cover Up Their Purple Hair As It Will Be Too Distracting
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#66 This Bride
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#67 This Dumpster Fire Was Deleted In Less Than 15 Minutes
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#68 Charging Bridal Party For Gifts
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#69 Marriage Cannot Succeed Unless The Entire Bridal Party Views Marriage As "Serious And Sacred"
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#70 Bride And All 17 Members Of The Bridal Party Receive This Email From A Bride's Friend, Who Was Only Invited To The Wedding Out Of Pity After Throwing A Giant Fit
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#71 Five-Day Bachelorette Party? I Would Say No, Too
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#72 Can’t Imagine How These Two Are Genuine Friends. What An Awful, Toxic Creature
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#73 Bride Almost Kicks Out The Entire Bridal Party For Not Responding, When She Told Them To Respond Only If They Wouldn’t Adhere To Her Demands
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#74 Just When You Think The Bridezilla Requests Can't Get Any More Ridiculous
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#75 Bride Doesn't Know What To Do With A Handicapped And Transgendered Wedding Party
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#76 Bridezilla Wants To Kick Someone Out Of Her Wedding Party Because She’s Pregnant
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#77 Bridesmaid / Sister-In-Law From Hell
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#78 Entitled Bride Demands That Her Bridesmaids Pay For Everything In Order To Look "Pristine" For Photos
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#79 I Was So Upset With My Bridesmaid's Behavior On My Wedding Day
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#80 I Will Never Understand Why People Think They Have A Right To Dictate Others' Choices Like This Just For Their One-Day Party
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