Woman Shares Five Lessons Learned From Staying Celibate Until Her Wedding Night

The anticipation of the wedding night can often be overwhelming, especially after the flurry of the wedding day's events.

In traditional settings, it was common for both the bride and groom to be virgins until their marriage, and this is still a choice many make today.

One Christian woman, who chose to abstain from sex until her wedding night, has shared insights about what she wished she had known before engaging in intimacy for the first time.

Alicia and John Tucker, who married in 2020, both decided to wait until they were married before having sex.

The couple, now living in Canada, offers advice to other brides who have chosen celibacy.

In a November video titled 'Wedding night tips for the celibate brides,' Alicia discussed her experiences.

She mentioned, "It can be a lot, all the anticipation leading up to the wedding night."

"So, I've compiled a list of five things you should know before your wedding night."

Her initial advice was for a celibate bride to communicate openly with her partner if she feels anxious in the days approaching their 'first time.'

Alicia shared, "So if you have a little bit of nerves about sex hurting you for the first time, definitely voice that to your fiancé."

She recommended that to calm nerves before sex, couples might consider taking a shower together as a way to unwind.

Alicia also highlighted a tip that she felt other virgins might not be aware of.

She emphasized: "It's so important to pee after you have sex."

"You can so easily get a UTI if you don't pee after having sex because there are a lot of fluids that happen during sex and if that goes into the wrong area, you can be in a lot of pain."

Furthermore, Alicia cautioned her audience that their first sexual experience might be messy, and advised virgin brides to prepare by placing a towel on the bed.

Although it might not seem romantic, it is practical.

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Alicia's fourth piece of advice was to 'just laugh it off if things are awkward.'

She elaborated, "If it's uncomfortable, if it doesn't go super smooth, just laugh it off. That's a big part of the intimacy experience."

Her final piece of advice? Stay in the moment.

She noted, "It's so difficult when your adrenaline is so high and it's a new experience that you have wanted for your whole life and your emotions are so high that it's really hard to be present."

The beauty of Alicia's tips is that they're universally applicable—not just for those who have waited until their wedding night, but for anyone.