Restaurant Server Secretly Gives Pregnant Woman Non-Alcoholic Cocktails, Faces Backlash Online


The 2.4-million-strong ‘AITA’ subreddit is a place for weird stories where people ask whether or not they were being jerks. And it proves that reality can sometimes be stranger than fiction. One post that got redditors’ and the media’s attention involved a server at a restaurant, an allegedly pregnant woman, and deception.


The server secretly served the woman ‘virgin’ (aka non-alcoholic) cocktails but got found out and suffered the consequences. Meanwhile, the ‘AITA’ crowd overwhelmingly called the Reddit user a jerk for what they did.


However, we’d love to know what you think of the situation, dear Pandas. Have a read and let us know if what the author of the story did was justified or not. What would you have done in this situation?



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The redditors who branded the original poster a jerk had a lot of different arguments why the server might have been in the wrong. For instance, they had no surefire way of knowing that the woman was, in fact, pregnant.


What’s more, some pointed out that non-alcoholic beverages can be cheaper than alcoholic ones in some places. So the bit of trickery the server did could be interpreted as stealing. However, keep in mind that the cost of virgin and ‘real’ drinks doesn’t differ at all in some restaurants, so this argument is on thin ice. We simply don’t have enough info about this.


Overall, most redditors sided with the ideals of free will and non-intervention: you don’t mess with somebody else’s food without their knowledge, even if you have good intentions. There were those who jumped to the OP’s defense, though, and praised them for following through with their principles even if there was deception involved.


According to the CDC, mothers drinking alcohol during pregnancy can cause fetal alcohol spectrum disorders (or FASDs) in their children.


“These effects can include physical problems and problems with behavior and learning,” the CDC explains. “There is no known safe amount of alcohol during pregnancy or when trying to get pregnant. There is also no safe time to drink during pregnancy. Alcohol can cause problems for a developing baby throughout pregnancy, including before a woman knows she’s pregnant. All types of alcohol are equally harmful, including all wines and beer.”


Meanwhile, the NHS points out that the Chief Medical Officers for the United Kingdom recommend that pregnant women don’t drink alcohol to keep risks to your baby to a minimum.


“Drinking in pregnancy can lead to long-term harm to the baby, with the more you drink, the greater the risk.”


Most redditors thought that the server was in the wrong and explained exactly why they thought so