Weddings are supposed to be magical and full of love. But it can be difficult to focus on celebrating your best friends when they’ve demanded that you cut your hair, pay $500 for a dress you’ll never wear again and stay absolutely silent during the reception. 

It’s wedding season, pandas! So in honor of all of these joyous occasions, we’ve taken a trip to the Wedding Shaming subreddit to hear about some nuptial nightmares. Enjoy reading through these posts that might make you scared to ever attend a wedding again, and be sure to upvote the behavior that you find most egregious!

#1 Pregnant Sister Obviously Got Pregnant On Purpose To Ruin The Wedding

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#2 No, No That's Not The Bride

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#3 Family Wedding In India. The Groom’s Sisters Had Dresses, Makeup, Jewellery And Hair Done Similar To The Bride. The Only Difference Is Bride’s Red Wedding Bangles. That’s A Lot Even For Indian Customs!

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We’re all familiar with the idea of a bridezilla or an entitled groom, but as it turns out, anyone at a wedding is capable of exhibiting terrible behavior. Guests may wear white gowns, groomsmen may make tasteless jokes, and wedding planners might send out lists of unreasonable requests to everyone attending. We’re all supposed to be on our best behavior at a wedding, but the Wedding Shaming subreddit makes it very clear that many people have a lot to learn about etiquette.

This subreddit, which is “a place to shame wedding themes, brides, grooms, wedding party, in-laws, outlaws, guests, Uncle Bob, vendors” and more, has amassed an impressive 535k members since its inception in 2018. Common topics in the group include bride/groomzillas, “dressed like a bride,” monster-in-law, family drama, horrible vendors, tacky, greedy, rude guests, drunk as hell, foul friends, step-monster, terribly groomed and cringe. And as you'll soon find out, there are plenty of those waiting for you down below! 

#4 I Literally Can’t Wrap My Head Around This Being Legit. Absolutely Bananas!

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#5 Just When You Think The Bridezilla Requests Can't Get Any More Ridiculous

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#6 I Have No Words For This… Absolutely Heartless

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The photos on this list might make you start to associate weddings with absolute nightmares, rather than the joyous and loving celebrations they are intended to be, but the reality is that weddings often aren’t the picture perfect movie moments that we imagine them to be. Sure, the day might be absolutely wonderful and a great time. But 58% of couples say they were stressed on their special day, and 76% of newlyweds admit that, if they could have their wedding again, there would be things they would do differently. 28% even regret how much they spent on the celebration, which might not be surprising, considering the average wedding costs around $30,000.

It’s important for brides and grooms to understand that their wedding day may not actually be the happiest day of their lives or go perfectly according to plan, but that’s totally fine. In fact, having expectations that are too high might actually come back to bite you, if you feel pressure that the day must be flawless. Don’t have unreasonable expectations, don’t demand too much of your guests, and remember what the day is truly about: celebrating your love.  

#7 Bride Cancels Mua Because Mua Is Not Married And Has Kids. Bride Wants Deposit Back

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#8 Bride Doesn't Feel Like Getting Married Any More Because *checks Notes* The Surprise Is Ruined

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#9 How Dare My 30yo Bridesmaid Have Some Grey Hair!!

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It’s interesting how weddings have turned from sacred celebrations of holy matrimony to events that spark family drama, create bridezillas and destroy friendships. There are so many stories of couples with expectations that are anywhere from unreasonable to outright offensive featured on this list, so we were curious where this behavior comes from. According to Madani, bride/groomzillas are often formed by the immense stress that comes with planning a wedding. There’s typically a lot of pressure put on their big day to be perfect, and with that can come unreasonable expectations. It’s hard to sweat the small stuff when you’re acutely aware of how much money the whole celebration is costing you and the fact that all of your friends and family members will be in attendance.     

#10 I Feel Like I’m Missing Something That Makes This Cute

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#11 Had To Tell Mom She Can’t Wear This To My Wedding - Have Gotten Silent Treatment Since…

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#12 Ah Yes. Someone Potentially Dying At Your Wedding Is A Much Better Idea Than Simply Not Having Seafood For One Day

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Just because planning a wedding is stressful does not mean that brides and grooms can be excused for displaying inappropriate or outright rude behavior. For a previous Bored Panda article discussing breaches of wedding etiquette, we reached out to Los Angeles-based wedding planner Alexa Farese to hear her thoughts on bad behavior at weddings.

“I've seen it all, from guests wearing white (not cool!) to guests being so belligerently intoxicated they lock themselves in the bathroom and can't figure out how to open the door!” Alexa shared. “At one wedding, the groom became so intoxicated that he face-planted into the cake, breaking the dessert table on his way down!”

#13 Bridezilla Is Angry Because Best Man's Pregnant Wife Is Due Around Bride's Wedding Day And We All Know That Best Man's Wife Deliberately Did That

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#14 From A Wedding Group, Bride Is Mad Because No One Has Sent Gifts Yet

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#15 Please No Judgement, I Cheated On My Fiancé

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“Early on in my career, I was at a wedding where the bride's ex showed up with a group of his friends,” Alexa previously told Bored Panda. “They snuck in through the kitchen and started a fight with the bridal party! It was NUTS! Luckily, security put an end to the chaos quickly, but it was wildly inappropriate and took the spotlight off of the couple for the moment. Some of the less extreme and common faux-pas are showing up late, whispering (or outright talking) throughout the ceremony and/or speeches, and over indulging in the bar.”

#16 This Is Not My Post- Jealous Fiancé

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#17 “How Dare They Use The Same Venue As Us”

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#18 Moh Too Busy Texting To Watch The Ceremony

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When it comes to what we should all be keeping in mind as far as wedding etiquette goes, Alexa says, “Weddings are meant to be a celebration of love and union - all guests and vendors should remember this! Arrive on time, smile big, be quiet through the ceremony and toasts, pay attention to special dances and moments, dance the night away, and always, always drink responsibly! As long as you show up ready to celebrate your loved ones' special day and stay committed to that mindset throughout the wedding, then you are doing it right!”

#19 Groom Party Had An Interesting Take On Attire

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#20 Not My Post: Bridezilla….honey Can You Absolutely Not. A Life Is Worth More Than Your Wedding

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#21 Mlm Making It’s Way Around The Wedding Photographer Groups. Photog Was Blocked When She Declined

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For another previous article, we reached out to the founders of Bespoke Bride, Emily and Jessica, to hear why wedding planning is so challenging in the first place. “Planning a wedding is a complex process that involves lots of research, good and efficient communication and knowledge of project management,” the experts explained. “It involves a great deal of patience, problem-solving, time management, and people skills. Rather than trying to fit into what society deems a ‘wedding should be’ - a good wedding planner needs to focus on the special moments that define who the bride and groom are as a couple.”

#22 It Can’t Be Just Me Thinking This Is Tacky

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#23 Only Some Of You Can Eat! Posted On Local Radio Page

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#24 Mother Of The Bride. Bride’s Dress Also Had Bejeweled Top And Float Bottom

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“Planning a wedding can be extremely stressful, so be prepared and make sure you only take on what you can realistically achieve,” Emily and Jessica previously told Bored Panda. “If you have your heart set on DIY-ing the entire wedding but work full-time - forget about it. There is a good chance you will not have the time or energy to take on so much responsibility.”

It sounds like realistic expectations are a crucial part of throwing a successful wedding that won’t get you shamed on Reddit. So if you plan to tie the knot any time soon, keep this in mind, pandas!

#25 This Stuff Bugs Me So Damned Much!!

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#26 Just When I Thought Bridezillas Were Done. Saw This In Wedding Group

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#27 Old High School Classmate Faked A Negative Test To Get Married Abroad. ? (As A Bonus, This Is The Mentioned Last Pic)

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We hope this list isn’t making you lose faith in love, pandas. If you’re planning on going to a wedding sometime soon, just make sure that the bride and groom don’t have any unreasonable requests, and I’m sure you’ll have a wonderful time filled with love, delicious food and dancing the night away. Keep upvoting the pics that you find most appalling, and let us know in the comments if you’ve ever been to a wedding that deserves a spot on this list. Then, if you’re interested in checking out even more photos from the Wedding Shaming subreddit, you can find Bored Panda’s last article featuring the group right here!

#28 Well This Should Be Fun - Online Wedding Group Drama

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#29 The ‘Friend’ Thinks There Should Be An Age Limit On Wearing Wedding Dresses And Nanna Should Just Wear ‘A Nice Dress Or Skirt/Pants And A Top’

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#30 Mob Wants To Wear Old Wedding Dress, Her Ex Husband Will Be There With His New Wife

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#31 Greedy Ass Rude Bride. I’d Be Cancelling That Cheque Too

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#32 Saw This Post In A Wedding Planning Bookface Group

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#33 Best Combo! A Beautiful Wedding Dress And A Um… Hat

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#34 Not My Post:entitled Fiancé Wants Someone To Pay For Her Nails

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#35 Bride Is Upset Her Sister’s Life Isn’t Revolving Around Her Wedding

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#36 Bridezilla Upset Florist Is Having Surgery 8 Weeks Before Her Very Important Wedding… (The Comment Section Was Not On Her Side And She Left The Group Lol)

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#37 I Just Can’t With This, It’s So Bad

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#38 A Bridezilla Story From A Photography Group I'm In

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#39 My Mum's 'Friend' Had This Dress Especially Made To Wear To My Wedding

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#40 Screw John Legend, All Of Me Is *our* Song Only ?

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#41 Don’t You Dare Have A Heart Attack At My Wedding!

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#42 People Will Try To Sell Anything

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#43 Controlling How Much Guests Can Drink By Making Them Wear An Id Badge…. And It Doubles As Their Favor

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#44 “Being Broke Is Just An Excuse For Her”

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#45 How Dare A Bridesmaid Have A Surgical Procedure Near Your Wedding Date, The Audacity

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#46 Why Get Married If You Hate Your Spouse

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#47 I Doubt This Qualifies For High School Volunteer Hours

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#48 The Bride Is Beautiful And Her Dress Was A Stunner. The Bridesmaids Top Notch, And The Groom… Well That’s Southern Maryland For You

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#49 Almost Kicks Out Entire Bridal Party For Not Responding When She Told Them Only To Respond If They Wouldn’t Adhere To Her Demands…

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#50 I'm Getting Married At A Pagan Bookstore, And This Was My Father's Response... He Hasn't Talked To Me Since

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#51 God Forbid, I Don’t Cater My Wedding To You

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#52 Bride Asking If This Is Too Much To Ask. ?

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#53 So. Many. Rules!! Quickly Posted…and Deleted Lol

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#54 Uhhh Thanks But No Thanks Google! Maybe This Is Why Everyone Wears White To Weddings ?

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#55 Bride Will Be The Only One Not Wearing Glasses And Isn’t Sure How To ‘Overcome This Issue’… Comments Were Asking If She Was Serious Lol

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#56 Not My Post: Future Bride Has A Different Situation…

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#57 Why Get Married In The First Place Then

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#58 Another Bride Who Thinks It’s The Parents Responsibility To Pay For A Wedding

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#59 Bride Upset Friend Of Over 20 Years Is Having Wedding At The Same Venue A Year After Her…

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#60 Bride Thinks Returning Wedding Decorations After Using Them Is A Great Way To “Save Money”

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#61 If Entitlement Were A Reddit Post…bride To Be Laments That “Burdensome” Invited Guests Aren’t Paying Enough To Come To Her Wedding. The Op Really Went All In The Comments Of The Post

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#62 Spotted In A Wedding Planning Group. I Don't Know How This Got Normalized

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#63 Inviting Your Own Guests With A Side Of Sl*t Shaming

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#64 Another Case Of A Groom Being Underdressed For His Own Wedding

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#65 Yes, That's The Groom Wearing Crocks And Shorts

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#66 “Friend” Of The Bride Throws Tantrum Over Not Being Chosen As Moh

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#67 The Rant, The Comment From Her Moh, Oh My God

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#68 "Sweet Sweet Bitch" (When Bridesmaids Go Wrong)

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#69 Caught My First Questionable Guest Dress In The Wild

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