Woman Picks Up Her 2 Y.O. Child From Daycare Despite Her Teacher Insisting She Should Finish Cleaning Up Her Place First, Gets Messaged By The Teacher

Living in a society, most situations include communicating and working with other people. That’s why, even when one is certain about their own understanding of the situation, one might find that looking for a compromise is a better solution for both sides.

Sometimes, however, there simply is no time for that, especially when you are raising a child. This seems to be one Redditor’s experience when she had an emergency and was forced to quickly pick up her child from daycare.

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This woman just needed to urgently pick up her toddler from daycare—however, it turned out to be challenging

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The child’s teacher insisted on the girl cleaning up her place first, even though she knew they were running late for the appointment

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The teacher argued that the girl needs to learn responsibility

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However, the mother was forced to say no to the teacher

We know just how important it is to maintain good relationships and respect for all the people who are involved in our daily life. A good relationship might be challenged when people disagree about their responsibility and the boundaries that come with it. This is often the case in situations that are urgent, unexpected, and first and foremost, different. Once something changes, the challenge is to apply the written and unwritten rules to new circumstances.

Both women, the teacher and the mother, were getting along. The mother found the teacher to be really nice. The teacher expected children to always clean up their place before leaving, so the woman would text the teacher before picking her daughter up so that the girl would be ready to leave once she came to pick her up. 

However, this one time, the situation was different. The woman had car trouble and they were late for an appointment. The redditor explained, that she would normally wait for her daughter to clean her place, but this time she couldn’t. The mother was not willing to wait to pick her child up when she needed to, especially when the situation was urgent. The mother thought the teacher was not paying attention to them being late for the appointment and making it into a lesson of responsibility for her daughter at a very inappropriate time.

The teacher didn’t seem to agree that there might be exceptions to the rule on a child cleaning up their place before leaving. She thought the woman was undermining her authority and not teaching her daughter responsibility. The teacher referred to the rules, which she thought were supposed to stay fixed, while the mother said it was not in the contract.

Afterwards, the teacher messaged the woman accusing her of breaking the rules and undermining her authority

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The mother found it ridiculous that she was given “a verbal warning” for picking up her child

D. W. Winnicott, in his book “The Child, the Family and The Outside World”, gives a comprehensive overview of early childhood education in kindergarten. He emphasizes the importance of a good relationship between the child’s mother and teacher for a child’s development. He notes that the kindergarten teacher is supposed to take over and continue some of the important roles of the mother.

Winnicott suggests that kindergarten should be treated as an extension of family life, rather than an introduction to primary school. It is because in early childhood, at the age of two to five or seven years old, children’s emotional age is constantly shifting. A child might often exhibit mature behavior; however, they still perceive the world more subjectively than objectively, and their behavior and perception might quickly shift in a more emotionally sensitive or challenging situation—for example, when a child is going to sleep or waking up.

Similarly, like the mother physically caring for a child gives them psychological support, the processes and activities in the kindergarten are not supposed to be only mechanical and non-personal, as a child would otherwise perceive it as hostility or, even worse, indifference. The kindergarten teacher’s main responsibility is to help the child’s development. They should do this by making the child’s relationship with their family stronger, while at the same time introducing the child to a broader circle of people and possibilities.

Winnicott emphasizes that an open and warm relationship between the kindergarten teacher and the child’s mother helps to gain the mother’s trust and reassure the child. The teacher’s potential and possibilities lie in their personal relationship with a child, the child’s mother, and the teacher’s group of kids. The teacher becomes a sensitive and gentle friend who is tolerant of possible inconsistencies and is able to help when there is a relevant problem. In contrast to the mother, the teacher has special education and knowledge, and therefore should be able to look at a child’s education with more objectivity.

The post got 19K upvotes and most of the commenters agreed that the Redditor was not being a jerk in this situation, noticing that it was an exceptional situation that she could not foresee and that is why the teacher could have been more understanding. However, some were concerned that the mother could lose her child’s spot in the daycare, as it is up to the teacher to set the rules there.

Most commenters on Reddit agreed that the teacher should have been more understanding, noticing it was an emergency

 

 

 

 

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