We come into this world expecting love from the people who brought us into it. But sometimes, that love turns out to be conditional, distant—or even harmful.

One woman on TikTok asked others to share the most toxic thing their mothers have ever said to them, and the replies show just how deep those wounds can run.

Read their stories below, and if something resonates, the comment section is open for whatever you need to say.

#1

She basically said that no one would ever love me and that I would die alone, I was a teenager

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#2

Told my mom my stepdad was s*xually a**sing me and she told me “It wasn’t like that” “he didn’t mean it that way”

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#3

Told us that we weren’t worth the 10k they spent on ivf

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#4

my mom accused me and my dad sleeping together when I was around 14 cause she was convinced he was cheating. I havent really been the same since..

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#5

she said I was diagnosed autistic when I was 10 and just didn't tell me because she didn't want me to use it as an excuse when I struggled. She told me this at 21.

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#6

„I wish I never had you“ I guess

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#7

Slept with my ex bf and bragged about it to my other sisters. I was the last to know.

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#8

Accused me of being pregnant every time I got bloated (i had undiagnosed celiac’s disease) at age 12 and my entire teenage years

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#9

"I could've given birth to you in Italy and left you in the hospital so no-one at home would've even found out I was ever pregnant, so be grateful i didn't."

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#10

“Fat people shouldn’t dress like that” I was 8. 8!!!

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#11

my puppy got hit by a car in front of me when i was 14 and i was self harming in those years and my mum said 'you better not cut yourself over this' as we stood next to his flattened corpse

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#12

“Do you know no one has phoned to ask how I am?” This is what she said after I told her I had cancer.

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#13

When I was 15, my mom discovered a box full of pictures of me…that my step dad had been taking of me without my knowledge. She had me move out to live with my dad. And is still with him to this day ????

#14

forced me to have an abortion due to my age at home then while recovering we went for a walk saw a newborn and I quote she said " I can't wait to be a nana" . while I was going through said abortion

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#15

She kicked me out at 18. At 31 she said "you should ask for more help, it's not healthy to do everything on your own." you made me a homeless teen. trusting people is not easy for me now ????

#16

Telling her I miscarried at 14weeks pregnancy: "I just gave everyone cake in the office announcing I'm going to be a grandma. How awful, I'm not going to be a grandma. What am I going to tell them?!"

#17

She told me I looked really great cause I lost weight, then I told her about my eating disorder and how I wasn’t doing well, and she responded: “Well, whatever works!” ????

#18

I was exhausted and grieving after birthing and losing my daughter at 21 weeks, she mocked me cuz I didn’t feel like coming down to lunch. My husband made her and my dad leave our house the next day.

#19

when my parents found out my ex bf had recently cheated on me, her first words were "was the other girl skinny?" even my dad was appalled.

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#20

left me alone in a store after i threw a tantrum at 4yo while telling everyone: "whoever wants her can have her, I don't want her anymore" she proudly tells that story every year

#21

"I will never love your children as much as I love your sister's kids." (Because I'm ????)

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#22

"I don't want your stepfather to adopt you, because I don't want another woman having his family name"

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#23

Said to me, “You’re a spoiled brat,” at the age of 40 when I bought a Louis Vuitton. (I’m married, own a home, employed, etc. and bought myself a new purse for my bday.)

#24

I was bringing my first boyfriend to meet my parents. My mom asked, "Aren't you worried that he might fall in love with your sister, since she's so much slimmer and prettier than you?"

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#25

after my dad died she dragged me around by my hair, slammed my head off the kitchen counter, and then said "I wish your dad was still here he'd be so disappointed in you". because I was outed

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#26

Told me repeatedly that I was fat and ugly. Now I have horrible body issues and don't know how to take a compliment without being awkward

#27

when I was PREGNANT she said once I have a child of my own i will finally know all the misery she's dealt with and all the horrible things I've caused her

#28

Reminded my mum of a time she hit me over something trivial and she replied with “I’d never do such a thing, I’ve never layed my hands ever on you, you must be making fake memories in your head.

#29

when I was 7 she packed all my stuff into garbage bags, tossed them outside the front door and locked me out while yelling she wished she aborted me and I was a mistake, it was pouring rain too ????????‍♀

#30

“The love a parent is supposed to feel for their child, I don’t feel that for you.” Literally the last time I spoke with her. Cruel and awful.

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#31

I was 7. My sister was 5 and admitted to hospital for the flu. I was scared. I went to hug my mom. She pushed me away and said “I don’t do hugs”. I was 7. And scared for my sister. ????

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#32

My mom got me fired from my first job bc I got grounded for accidentally shrinking her sweaters, took my phone away & wouldn’t let me call in, so they fired me. She then degraded me for getting fired.

#33

My mum told me I couldn't go to my brothers passing out parade as there were limited 2 tickets per family. I found out the next day, my WHOLE family was there. Both parents and my 3 other siblings. ????

#34

Called me a “hypocritical, manipulative b****” on my 22nd bday because I wanted to spend the day with my dad, not drive her around to flooring stores.

#35

we'd never been close but I'd agreed on a day trip with her. we walked past a bridal shop and randomly she just goes "I don't think you'll ever get married". I was barely 20yrs old...

#36

back in highschool I found out a colleague has leukemia and I was home crying; mom comes to me and says: oh do not cry, leukemia is not transmissible

#37

She taught my toddler brother(that was from her affair) to call me a disgusting fat pig when I was a teen. She taught a baby that I helped raise and shared a bedroom with, to a***e me.

#38

My mom drew me a chart to explaining how every person in the fam disliked/hated me. According to her,the 2 ppl that didn’t hate me “didn’t count”bc “1 liked every1”& the other 1 “didn’t see me enough”

#39

I had a fight with my mom, she completely ignored me for a week.. like completely also did not get any food etc etc…. I’m in therapy now ????

#40

When I had gastritis and became severely underweight, she told me I look like I've just come out of a concentration camp. Another time she said I lost so much weight I was 'nearly attractive'.

#41

"what happened to the NICE little girl you used to be?" "if you keep going like that, you'll need Blacks of Greenock to make you a wedding dress" (they make tents)

#42

I had told my social worker that I felt really bad bc my mom had a s-attempt. When my mom found out she said: “well, you definately don’t give me a will to live” ????

#43

told me she only had me because she wanted to have two kids, to not have a spoiled only child. then proceeds to only care for my sibling anyway making him spoiled and me severely neglected

#44

"u always ruin everything" in middle of my panic attack. "ur just too sensitive" when i told abt bullying i experienced in elementary school :))) sm more but cant fit them all here

#45

"She goes or I go!" To my dad. She wanted him to kick me out of the house because she didn't think I appreciated Disneyland enough. I did appreciate it. I'm disabled and was in pain.

#46

she would actually say ‘i don’t like that outfit’, then continue to shred to pieces the new clothes i bought with my own money

#47

“Nah.. Just leave her, it’ll pass”… after school called that they wanted to call an ambulance after they thought I had a seizure….she was right about that one.: still alive

#48

she called me a slur when I was 12 cuz I had put on some lip gloss and asked if I could play outside ????‍♀️

#49

I had to have a hysterectomy because I had uterine cancer and she said that was gods way of punishing me!

#50

After going back to school in my 40’s to get a degree in Mortuary Science, mother dearest decided to snarl her face and say “guess living people aren’t good enough for you, huh? That’s gross.”

#51

Where do I start when I was 17 I did 1 semester of school abroad,over the phone I told her I miss her cooking. when I got back she made this delicious stew,asked her what it was and she said w a smirk "Dolly in the pot"-Dolly was my pet bunny

#52

broke student - at 19 suffering from severe and anxiety and depression. uni therapist said it would help to see a psychiatrist. got the courage to tell them and mom said "you think you have problems"

#53

I got to therapy because of her. I am 32 and in the past year she told me: 1. that i should leave my daughter with her because I am not a good mom ????

#54

I was moving in with a guy friend and she hated that. She said "If anything happens to you, you're on your own." I'm a survivor of csa. I was on my own then too. My bf died suddenly 6 months ago and
I'm on my own now too.

#55

After my Nan passed away - ‘I don’t know what you’re crying about, it’s not like she’s your mother’ ahhhhh she kinda was because you were off having affairs for majority of my childhood ????

#56

“Well go find a family that loves you then” “Do it properly next time not just for attention” “I’ll give you something to cry about” “I love you because I have to but I don’t like you” “

#57

I was 15. She said “you’re just jealous I have more of a life than you” during an argument, right after I’d cried to her about how depressed school was making me and how I felt like I had nobody.

#58

“No wonder your ex didn’t want you.” She said this because I hadn’t put my laundry away within 10 mins ????????

#59

My husband had depression when we first got together, then my brother started dating his girlfriend who has EDS, our mum said ‘why can’t either of you date someone normal’

#60

When my dad clocked my scars from self harming and started to ask me about them my mum said ‘ignore her she’s just attention seeking’ at that point aged 13 I knew I was on my own

#61

She always called me a pig for how much I ate so I stopped eating. I told her years after I recovered from my ED, she said “I told you you ate badly”. Logic goes out the window with the woman????

#62

at 10 watching a survival tv reality show she said "look how those people lose weight you should do this" out of nowhere in front of my family I wasn't fat

#63

She told me how I could get kidnapped, tortured and would be a missing person in great detail.. when I was 7 and we had a fight about my HOMEWORK????

#64

She didnt say anything to me. For three months. I still lived at my parents home.

#65

Hadn't seen me for a whole month, when she saw me again the first thing that came out wasn't a "hi" or "I missed you" but "you've put on weight" ????

#66

"You are not my daughter anymore", because I was home late. By 5 min. Driving back home from a millitary prep exercise for beeing deployed. So I packed up my s**t and left. That was 13y ago.

#67

That I would keep a dirty house and no one would ever want to come and now I can’t relax in my house until it’s clean and tidy even though no one ever comes round unexpectedly

#68

mine explicitly told me word by word that she only loves me bc im her child and that if she met me outside of this dynamic she'd probably hate me... haha

#69

has repeatedly told me that “we” can’t pull certain items of clothing off and protected all of her insecurities onto me and now I also don’t get my legs out bc “i can’t”.

#70

I wanted to stay at my mum’s the night I had my second miscarriage, me and my ex stayed and I kept crying and my mum told me to stop crying because she was trying to watch tv

#71

my mom told me if i ever have kids, they’ll die under my care b/c i’m irresponsible. 27. no kids yet. my mom cries to other ppl saying that she wants to b a gma…. i haven’t decided if i want any.

#72

Started failing high school. Told me I’d be nothing more than a maid. Turns out I had undiagnosed ADHD and struggled academically as a result.

#73

She didn’t like my college bf. Didn’t like I wouldn’t break up with him because she said so. Then told me “he’ll probably beat you and you’d be the type that stays”. I married him.

#74

‘Has your psychologist called back yet to tell you they got your diagnoses wrong and you don’t have BPD?’ No mom, it’s been 2,5 years… you can stop asking.

#75

Not what she said but more what she hasn’t said. Whenever me or my sister say „I love you“ she not once said it back

#76

I have a recording of her saying she didn’t even want my brothers and they were a mistake. Also, I begged and cried to her one night to just be my mom and love me and she just stood there blank faced

#77

My ex attacked me 15 months after I broke up with him and it was really, really bad. After I escaped I called her from the police station and the first things she said was that it was my fault. He's now serving a 20 year prison sentence for multiple felonies and the closest she's come to apologizing is saying she didn't know how bad it was at the time.

#78

I held my moms hand in parking lot of store when I was about 10 ish and she told me to stop because people will think we’re gay

#79

"This is why you were such a loner". uummm, excuse me?! you pulled me out of public schooling and sheltered me from normal society.

#80

the thing that haunts me the most, is legit 3sec after waking up at the hospital 3 days after trying to not exsist anymore, she looked me dead in the eyes and said 'you're not getting away that easy'